RL News

Since Mike has started making his public posts, I can now start making mine.

The RL stuff that’s been kicking my butt recently is that Mike and I are getting divorced. No other man/woman, no huge fight, just long-term problems that have reached an unfixable point.

If there aren’t huge paperwork snaffus, the house stuff should be finished by the end of June (Mike’s buying me out of the house,) the divorce will be finalized by the end of July, and I’ll be moving to Seattle at the end of August. (I’ve lived in the desert for the last 6 years. Time to try the other extreme.)

Though I’m sad, going our separate ways isn’t a mistake. I’m looking forward to my new life. I’ve started writing again — finished a short story yesterday, and will be restarting the novel today.

Hope that life is treating all of you well.

PS. It’s also snowing here. 3-4 inches accumulated. Supposed to keep snowing off and on into the afternoon. *sigh*

Comments (70)

    • I don’t even believe in snow in February any more.

      Clearly, I’ve been to long in the southwest. 🙂

    • I should have taken pictures. The snow stayed until last night — could see a patch of it in the lawn next door.

      Looking forward to seeing you at the start of next month. . .

  1. I’m very sorry to hear that. I wish you both all the best.

    And I have a feeling you’ll love Seattle. 🙂

    • Thanks for the well wishes. And I think I’m going to like Seattle too.

  2. Sorry to hear it, and many good thoughts as you work everything through, logistically, emotionally, and in every other way.

    • Thanks. Keep thinking I’d like to get back to Tucson sometime, see you, Larry, go hiking in the desert. . .

      • You’re definitely quite welcome–and we can offer crash space, too. 🙂 (Futon or couch bed, depending on whether our roommate is in the country.)

        I’ll probably be heading to a conference in Port Townsend come October, so maybe, if you’re in Seattle by then, we can find some time to get together before or after same, too.

  3. My feelings are very similar to ‘s: Sorry to hear about your divorce but happy that you’ve picked the pacific northwest.

    We don’t have snow in June. In the city itself, we sometimes go a couple years without snow at all. You can always go visit snow in the mountains, if you want.

  4. We talked at Wiscon, so you know how I feel about the RL stuff.

    But I envy your move to Seattle–I love that city. The only thing I wouldn’t want to face is the occasional ice storm, which given the warp and weave of some of the roads can make driving too exciting, if not impossible.

    • You’ll have to come out and visit sometime.

      I’m not too worried about the weather — as I’ll still be telecommuting, I generally won’t have to go out if it gets bad.

  5. Sorry to hear that things are unfixable. I enjoyed meeting you (and Mike) at MileHiCon, and suspect that now such meetings will be even more rare. Although, one never knows. I hope things go smoothly for you now. Seattle is a lovely place to live and has many neat writers to get to know.

    • Mike, I believe, will still be attending MileHiCon. . .It was nice to meet you too. Thanks for the well wishes.

    • I don’t even believe in snow in February any more.

      Clearly, I’ve been to long in the southwest. 🙂

    • I should have taken pictures. The snow stayed until last night — could see a patch of it in the lawn next door.

      Looking forward to seeing you at the start of next month. . .

  6. I’m very sorry to hear that. I wish you both all the best.

    And I have a feeling you’ll love Seattle. 🙂

  7. Sorry to hear it, and many good thoughts as you work everything through, logistically, emotionally, and in every other way.

    • Thanks. Keep thinking I’d like to get back to Tucson sometime, see you, Larry, go hiking in the desert. . .

      • You’re definitely quite welcome–and we can offer crash space, too. 🙂 (Futon or couch bed, depending on whether our roommate is in the country.)

        I’ll probably be heading to a conference in Port Townsend come October, so maybe, if you’re in Seattle by then, we can find some time to get together before or after same, too.

  8. So sorry to hear

    I can’t remember if your wedding included a charge-to-the-assembled to support your union. If so, I’m sad to have not been given a chance to fulfill such a vow.

    If it’s for the best, then… ::sigh::

    ::hugs::
    Z

    P.S.: Mike has an LJ? I hadn’t known. (Next stop: your userinfo.)

    P.P.S.: I just pimped Star Dragon on (to be seen in 2006). Paper Mage was my first “book promo spot”.

    P.P.P.S.: I’m coming to Seattle in Aug/Sep for NASFiC.

    • Re: So sorry to hear

      Mike has an LJ feed — syndicated, so his blog can show up in your friends list. Thanks for the pimp — I’m sure he appreciates it. Particularly since it’s now out in paperback.

      I will be moving in the weekend of NASFiC. I am not planning on attending at this time. But, who knows? Maybe I’ll swing by the parties one evening. . .

  9. Sorry to hear things have reached that stage. Sending strong thoughts and good marzipan your way.

    —L.

  10. My feelings are very similar to ‘s: Sorry to hear about your divorce but happy that you’ve picked the pacific northwest.

    We don’t have snow in June. In the city itself, we sometimes go a couple years without snow at all. You can always go visit snow in the mountains, if you want.

  11. We talked at Wiscon, so you know how I feel about the RL stuff.

    But I envy your move to Seattle–I love that city. The only thing I wouldn’t want to face is the occasional ice storm, which given the warp and weave of some of the roads can make driving too exciting, if not impossible.

    • You’ll have to come out and visit sometime.

      I’m not too worried about the weather — as I’ll still be telecommuting, I generally won’t have to go out if it gets bad.

  12. Sorry to hear that things are unfixable. I enjoyed meeting you (and Mike) at MileHiCon, and suspect that now such meetings will be even more rare. Although, one never knows. I hope things go smoothly for you now. Seattle is a lovely place to live and has many neat writers to get to know.

    • Mike, I believe, will still be attending MileHiCon. . .It was nice to meet you too. Thanks for the well wishes.

  13. So sorry to hear

    I can’t remember if your wedding included a charge-to-the-assembled to support your union. If so, I’m sad to have not been given a chance to fulfill such a vow.

    If it’s for the best, then… ::sigh::

    ::hugs::
    Z

    P.S.: Mike has an LJ? I hadn’t known. (Next stop: your userinfo.)

    P.P.S.: I just pimped Star Dragon on (to be seen in 2006). Paper Mage was my first “book promo spot”.

    P.P.P.S.: I’m coming to Seattle in Aug/Sep for NASFiC.

    • Re: So sorry to hear

      Mike has an LJ feed — syndicated, so his blog can show up in your friends list. Thanks for the pimp — I’m sure he appreciates it. Particularly since it’s now out in paperback.

      I will be moving in the weekend of NASFiC. I am not planning on attending at this time. But, who knows? Maybe I’ll swing by the parties one evening. . .

  14. Sorry to hear things have reached that stage. Sending strong thoughts and good marzipan your way.

    —L.

  15. Snow

    I knew Laramie was out there…but I wasn’t exactly clear on just how whacked the place was until this “snow in June” thing. I may believe in fairies, but snow in June is right out.

    As for the other bit….May the excitement and joy of the new path make it easier for the edges to dull on the past to make it something you can remember with mostly satisfaction and only a little sadness.

    • Re: Snow

      lol. The snow *was* pretty whacked out. And thanks for the well wishes. And sometime soon, my people will be emailing your people about dimensions, delimiters, figuring out the space we’re working in, etc. (^_^)

      *smooches*

  16. Snow

    I knew Laramie was out there…but I wasn’t exactly clear on just how whacked the place was until this “snow in June” thing. I may believe in fairies, but snow in June is right out.

    As for the other bit….May the excitement and joy of the new path make it easier for the edges to dull on the past to make it something you can remember with mostly satisfaction and only a little sadness.

    • Re: Snow

      lol. The snow *was* pretty whacked out. And thanks for the well wishes. And sometime soon, my people will be emailing your people about dimensions, delimiters, figuring out the space we’re working in, etc. (^_^)

      *smooches*

  17. Good thoughts, my RL job situation is shaky right now, but next con we’re both at, you know I’ll stand you a good single malt.

    TomP

    • Best of luck with your RL job situation. Thanks for the offer of scotch — know that I’ll do the same in return.

  18. All of the above and more. Good energy coming to you from the land of tai chi and bao zi…:) *hugs*

    • Thanks. Sounds like you’re having an excellent time.

      Unfortunately, Dragon*Con is likely to be off for me this year. . .

      • Completely understandable about Dragon*Con, though I’ll be sorry to miss you. Best wishes for the new life in Seattle. I’m sure we’ll bump into each other next WisCon.

  19. Good thoughts, my RL job situation is shaky right now, but next con we’re both at, you know I’ll stand you a good single malt.

    TomP

    • Best of luck with your RL job situation. Thanks for the offer of scotch — know that I’ll do the same in return.

  20. All of the above and more. Good energy coming to you from the land of tai chi and bao zi…:) *hugs*

    • Thanks. Sounds like you’re having an excellent time.

      Unfortunately, Dragon*Con is likely to be off for me this year. . .

      • Completely understandable about Dragon*Con, though I’ll be sorry to miss you. Best wishes for the new life in Seattle. I’m sure we’ll bump into each other next WisCon.

  21. Anonymous

    hi

    This is Charlotte Wang.
    Soooo sorry to hear this.
    Take care.

  22. Anonymous

    hi

    This is Charlotte Wang.
    Soooo sorry to hear this.
    Take care.

  23. i’m so sorry. not that i know you well, but had i known, i would have offered a hug at wiscon. two years ago i was going through a divorce during wiscon and god knows i needed one.

    be well and happy.

  24. i’m so sorry. not that i know you well, but had i known, i would have offered a hug at wiscon. two years ago i was going through a divorce during wiscon and god knows i needed one.

    be well and happy.

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